fix(ai): BaseAI.OnAggressiveAction owns the retaliation policy; familiars refuse cleanly (#2662)

> [!IMPORTANT]
> **Breaking change to API to fix NPC AI issues**

## Symptom

`FamiliarAITests.HiddenCaster_FamiliarRefusesRetaliation` fails on main at `Assert.False(wolf.Warmode)`: the familiar's `Combatant` stays null as intended, but it is left in war stance. In-game the familiar of a hidden caster flips into warmode for a tick when struck, until `FamiliarAI.StandDown()` clears it on the next think.

CI never saw it because the familiar tests are `SkippableFact` (they need client tiledata).

## Root cause

#2644 and #2645 landed a day apart and are individually correct but conflict at one seam.

Since #2645, a familiar (`Commandable == false`) is no longer "told to stand down", so `BaseCreature.AggressiveAction` continues past `AIObject.OnAggressiveAction(aggressor)` to its generic fallback:

```cs
else if (Combatant == null && !BardPacified)
{
    Warmode = true;
    Combatant = aggressor;
}
```

`FamiliarAI.OnAggressiveAction` had already declined (caster hidden), but the hook was `void`, so the creature could not tell. The fallback raised `Warmode` before `BaseFamiliar.Combatant` vetoed the target.

## Fix

This is the follow-up agreed in #2645: the retaliation policy moves into a virtual `BaseAI.OnAggressiveAction(aggressor) -> bool`.

- **`BaseAI.OnAggressiveAction`** now holds the stand-down verdict, the closer-aggressor swap (`PreferCloserAggressor`), and the `IssueOrder(Attack)` vs `Combatant =` decision. Returns `false` when the creature stands down.
- **`BaseCreature.AggressiveAction`** keeps only bookkeeping — `ControlMaster.Aggressors` entry, `StopFlee`, `ForceReacquire`, ethics `FinishShield` — keyed off the return, so an AI that declines is never second-guessed.
- **`FamiliarAI`** overrides the whole policy: no orders to stand down on, never fights for a hidden caster or a hidden aggressor.

Behaviour for every other AI is unchanged. Moving the fallback ahead of `StopFlee`/`ForceReacquire` is order-safe: both are pure field resets, `IssueAttack` does not `Think()`, and `OnCombatantChange` only derives `Warmode`.

Two commits: the first is the minimal `bool` hook that alone fixes the test, the second the policy move.

## Not changed (noted for later)

- `Warmode = true; Combatant = x;` (also in `FamiliarAI.Act`, `IssueAttack`) is redundant when the setter accepts — `BaseCreature.OnCombatantChange` derives `Warmode` — and is the dangling-warmode hazard whenever a `Combatant` setter vetoes.
- Since #2614 a stood-down pet skips the ethics `FinishShield`; RunUO ran it unconditionally. Preserved as-is.

## Tests

`HiddenCaster_FamiliarRefusesRetaliation` fails on main and passes here. Full `UOContent.Tests`: 1126 passed, 0 failed, 2 skipped (spawner fixture capture + benchmark).

Projects/UOContent/Mobiles/BaseCreature.cs

@@ -2735,18 +2735,12 @@ namespace Server.Mobiles
                 aggressor.Aggressors.Add(AggressorInfo.Create(this, aggressor, true));
             }
 
-            var toldToStandDown = _controlled && _controlMaster != null && Commandable &&
-                                  BaseAI.IsStandDownOrder(_controlOrder);
-
-            if (StandsDownOnCommand && toldToStandDown)
+            // The AI owns the retaliation policy; a creature that stands down keeps its flee and acquire state.
+            if (AIObject?.OnAggressiveAction(aggressor) != true)
             {
-                AIObject?.DebugSay("I'm being attacked but my master told me not to fight.");
-                Warmode = false;
                 return;
             }
 
-            AIObject?.OnAggressiveAction(aggressor);
-
             StopFlee();
 
             ForceReacquire();
@@ -2760,17 +2754,6 @@ namespace Server.Mobiles
                     pl.FinishShield();
                 }
             }
-
-            // Only reachable when the pet does not stand down: the orders above returned early.
-            if (aggressor.ChangingCombatant && toldToStandDown)
-            {
-                IssueOrder(OrderType.Attack, null, aggressor);
-            }
-            else if (Combatant == null && !BardPacified)
-            {
-                Warmode = true;
-                Combatant = aggressor;
-            }
         }
 
         public override bool OnMoveOver(Mobile m)