fix: Fixes send-path backpressure: consume IORingGroup 1.0.8, stop dropping packets silently (#2551)

## Summary

Two related fixes on the outbound path:

1. Consume **IORingGroup 1.0.8**, which allows more than one send in flight per socket, and expose the two settings that go with it.
2. Stop `NetState.Send` silently discarding packets when the send buffer fills — including an out-of-bounds write reachable in that state.

## 1. Send-path stall (RIO)

RIO reports send completion on **acknowledgement**, not on copy, so a completion cannot arrive sooner than one round trip. With one send in flight, `PostSend` refused to post again until the previous completion arrived — capping a connection at **one send per RTT** whenever it had data queued.

Measured on a 50ms-RTT production shard:

| | before | after |
|---|---|---|
| in-game latency, data flowing | **101–146 ms** | **48–51 ms** |
| p95 | ~135 ms | 52.8 ms |
| samples > 70 ms | 20 | **0** |

The control that confirms the mechanism: server-side post→completion was **unchanged** at median 92ms across both runs. The ACK-binding is inherent to RIO and did not move; only its propagation into application latency did.

Two things worth recording, because they explain why this went unnoticed:

- As little as **6 bytes** of queued data held the gate shut, so it reproduced in empty areas, not just crowded ones.
- The same measurement at loopback RTT is **microseconds**, so local testing could never surface it.

New settings, both restart-time:

- **`network.maxOutstandingSends`** (default 32) — sends in flight per connection. Honoured by RIO only; other backends complete sends on copy and report 1. Costs a request-queue and completion-queue slot per send, **not another buffer**, since every outstanding send addresses a different range of the same registered buffer. Worst-case added latency is roughly `completion RTT / value`.
- **`network.sendBufferSize`** (default 256KB) — per-connection send buffer, coerced to a power of two of at least the platform allocation granularity. This is the lever for the disconnects below, and the per-connection memory ceiling.

## 2. Send buffer full

`NetState.Send` had three failure modes once the buffer filled, none of them visible:

| writable | behaviour |
|---|---|
| `0` | `GetSendBuffer` returned false → **packet dropped**, no log, no disconnect |
| `4 … needed-1` | `Compress` returned 0 → `CommitWrite(0)` → **packet dropped** the same way |
| `1 … 3` | `safeOutputLength = (nuint)output.Length - 4` **underflows** → hot-loop bounds check never trips → **writes past the span** |

The first two leave a client connected while quietly missing game state, which is undiagnosable from either end. The third corrupts the in-flight region of the ring buffer, and is reachable precisely when a connection is congested, since callers only check for non-zero space.

`Compress` now refuses an output too small to bound, and `Send` reports exhaustion instead of dropping — logging and disconnecting with **needed / writable / unacked / capacity**. Those numbers separate a slow client holding the buffer from a buffer genuinely too small for the shard, which is the case that warrants raising `network.sendBufferSize`.

## Testing

`NetworkCompressionBoundsTests` covers the underflow using sentinel bytes around the output window. **Verified to fail without the guard** (4 failures from overwritten sentinels), confirming the out-of-bounds writes were real rather than theoretical.

Full suites green: **788 Server.Tests**, **597 UOContent.Tests**, Release build clean against the published 1.0.8.

## Notes for reviewers

- Upstream change: modernuo/IORingGroup#9.
- The buffer-full path is now *loud* where it used to be silent. If a shard has been quietly dropping packets under load, this will surface as disconnects — that is the intended outcome, and the log line says which setting to raise.
- Follow-up under discussion: promoting a connection to a larger buffer instead of disconnecting, which looks feasible on a live connection since buffers are referenced per-operation rather than bound to the request queue.

Projects/Server/Server.csproj

@@ -34,7 +34,7 @@
     </Target>
     <ItemGroup>
         <ProjectReference Include="..\Logger\Logger.csproj" />
-        <PackageReference Include="IORingGroup" Version="1.0.7" />
+        <PackageReference Include="IORingGroup" Version="1.0.8" />
         <PackageReference Include="CommunityToolkit.HighPerformance" Version="8.4.2" />
         <PackageReference Include="LibDeflate.Bindings" Version="1.0.3" />
         <PackageReference Include="System.IO.Hashing" Version="10.0.10" />